Celebrating


Today would have been my sixteen year wedding anniversary with my ex-husband. It's kind of crazy to think that sixteen years ago at the age of eighteen I said I do to a man who promised to among other things love, honor and cherish me until death do us part. Unbeknownst to me he also promised to belittle, berate, humiliate and hurt me. He promised to push me around, pull my hair, order me about, rape me and leave me battered, bruised and scarred.
Who knew a wedding cake could be so bitter? and that the gifts received would be anxiety, insecurity and fear?

But this year I am celebrating. I am celebrating milestones and looking back grateful for what I have learned and for the opportunities I've been give to share it and this year I did it by working to help other victims. I was contacted a couple weeks ago to participate in a domestic violence discussion group and couldn't help but be struck by the timing. What better way could there be to continue moving forward and celebrate that movement then by speaking out and helping to improve an organization devoted to ending domestic violence in our homes?


Although I would have participate regardless I have to admit I thought it was a really great anniversary gift to myself so over the last 3 days I participated in a discussion group for Safe Horizon, a national organization that helps victims of domestic violence and child abuse among other things. I have spent several hours a day discussing ways to expand services, raise funds, help victims and organize volunteers with people from all over the country. The conversation has been invigorating and allowed me to learn much and connect with a variety of people and resources. It really has been fantastic and I am excited for the doors this may open and for the people that will benefit from our time.
All in all it really has been a PERFECT anniversary and AMAZING gift!

Comments

  1. *Natural Queen*June 25, 2010 at 7:12 AM

    This is a POWERFUL post! You are so strong--love you...

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  2. Earma Brown, Author of WOW! Women of WorthJune 25, 2010 at 2:32 PM

    Thank you for all you do. May God bless you with more to do even more.

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